Never Say I Can’t

I have always had a problem with the word can’t. I can’t cook dinner or I can’t figure out how to fix a faucet or I can’t do laundry. As I went through the divorce process, like most of you I encountered various obstacles, which I was forced to overcome. As my life changed, I now not only had to deal with finances and work but also daily household chores and caring for a child. Many people would offer their advice on how to do things. Although some advice was helpful there were… Read More

Taking a Step Forward…

There is only so long you can avoid invitations to weddings after the demise of your own marriage.  After my own marriage ended in a bitter divorce, how in world was I supposed to attend this bridal bash without choking on a big glass of cynicism? Knowing that approximately 50% of marriages end in divorce, it makes you wonder if people getting married and taking a vow to be there for each other no matter what – know what they are actually committing to. A little over a year after my divorce… Read More

It’s a whole new game – Pick your battles

Whether you are in the middle of the divorce process or finally finished, everything you thought you knew about how to resolve issues with your ex-spouse involving the children you have together changed as soon as you began the divorce process. When we first got married and decided to have a child together, decisions that impacted the well being of our child were usually made together however, after divorce this is no longer true and typically the custodial parent holds all the cards when it comes to the final say even if… Read More

One Woman, One Divorce, Three Lawyers

Divorce can make even the most rational person act irrational. You may go into your divorce thinking that you and your spouse can keep things reasonable and amicable. It might only take a few days, weeks or months to realize this may not happen. Don’t be shocked if you have to deal with some “unreasonable behavior” from your spouse, this is a divorce after all. Typically when soon to be ex-spouses become unreasonable with each other, divorce attorneys must step in to play referee.  Each side will typically rely on their attorney… Read More

Lessons Learned

During the divorce process, mistakes are inevitable, especially when you let your emotions take control and cloud your vision. Unless you and your soon to be ex-spouse reach an agreement to settle, your case and the outcome of your divorce is governed by one person and one person alone… the judge. There is no divorce by jury, or a pool of your peers, the judge assigned to your case has the ultimate control. Even if you do end up settling, which most cases do, you likely will appear before a judge more… Read More

No one wins in Divorce Court

The problems caused by the actual divorce process become something bigger then the issues you and her ever had with each other. In the short term getting divorced will likely cost you more money than it would take to stay married and in some cases the divorce process from start to finish make take longer than the length of your marriage. The actual length of my marriage lasted almost 7 years before we finally called it quits, however, in my view my marriage was over long before than. Due to circumstances that… Read More

Don’t be you’re own Worst Enemy

One of the worst things about the divorce process is that you are your own worst enemy. Remember the truth lies somewhere in the middle between your story and your ex-spouse’s story.  You each see the truth as you remember it. Throughout the process, I can recall reacting defensive to things I heard the opposing side say because I thought that it was a lie – But was it really a lie or how she saw it. The range of emotions experienced through out the divorce process will cloud your vision.  If… Read More